Leadership Connections

We all get stuck sometimes. Perhaps we’re all stuck on something at any given point in time. There’s something we want but we lose the confidence, will, courage or clarity to move towards it and the more we think about it the harder it becomes because we know we’re stuck and that is both depressing and demotivating.

Here’s a simple 4 step process that will get you out of the stuckness and get you moving forward. It’s based not on focussing more on the ‘problem’ - which is what gets us depressed and demotivated but on identifying what we want and looking for evidence of when we have already succeeded to build upon. See also the article on resistance and why problem solving doesn’t work.
 

Step 1. Where are you now? Start by bringing to mind the issue that you’re stuck with. Be as clear as you can what it is and rank yourself from 1-10 on how you’re doing where 1 is ‘miles away’ and 10 is  ‘already completely there’
 

Step 2. Clarify what it is that you actually, deeply want. Describe as fully as you can what would allow you to score it at 10. How would you know if you were there? Try to describe it using all 5 senses. How would it look? What would you hear and feel?
 

Step 3. Identify what’s working. Whatever score you gave yourself, what allowed you to score it as highly as you did? What is your very best experience of this issue in the past? (however good that was)? What skills, capabilities and resources did you bring to that situation? This is the crucial bit. It won’t be easy but keep looking for times when you’ve had successes, ignore the inner voice that says it never has been, and ask yourself how you achieved them.